As many people as it takes to get what you need for your soul, that is.

I’ve had this quote from Glennon Doyle rattling around my brain for a week or so. Ever since Tim Ferriss shared a link to this article in one of his emails.

Bolding mine:

“Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”

It’s one of those ideas, you know?

A slow burn.

Where you just have to read it over and over again. Slowly it penetrates your mind, and you realize the supreme truth of it.

And how you’re so not doing it. Not disappointing people.

It means changing things up.

Not buckling and doing that extra thing for your kids you said you wouldn’t (and hating yourself after).

Not accepting that lower fee. Not justifying why your prices are ‘higher than everyone else’s.’

Not saying yes to that cold email request to ‘just pick your brain.’

Not taking that call or answering that email when you said you were going to be unavailable.

Maybe I’m an outlier here. Maybe you’re reading this and thinking, “Duh, James…you didn’t know?”

But if not, then maybe this is just what you needed to hear.

Disappointingly,
James